Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in your approach…
~ Tony Robbins
This Morning I got the eyebrows, yeah, those eyebrows, and I knew instantly what was coming…
“But I thought you were going to see Lynsey to work on Welshot Focus?”
“Yeah, I was”
“So your not now?”
“Nope, change of plans, working from the office instead”
And then I got the eyebrows, (again) along with a huff, a shrug and a muffled comment of “I can’t keep up with you, stuff is always changing” and a “You certainly make life interesting” which means, to me, he is amused rather than vexed so all is good in the Welshot bolthole.
For those of you who don’t have any idea what or who I am talking about – enter stage left, Eifion Williams, my business partner, my best friend, my voice of reason and sensibility and most definitely my yin to my yang who lives at the end, the very end, at the total opposite of the Belbin scale and we work (both personally and professionally) in completely different ways.
Neither ways are better than the other, neither are right, nor wrong but it does make for some interesting conversations, ideas, flip chart planning sessions and timescale and deadline agreements…
It’s taken us ten years to understand each other and how we both work and more importantly why we both work the way we do – it’s not been easy and if you know me then you will be nodding in agreement right now and possibly feeling the pain and frustration on the BossTogs part, and you will understand (and have probably seen) the reference to those eyebrows…
Now, after ten years we have settled into a very workable routine, according to another well known personality test Myers Briggs we shouldn’t really work, but we do. Having learned about each other, the whys, hows and whats, that make each of us tick, learning when those triggers have been activated and our stress and worry levels are on heightened alert have helped. Because, as you have probably worked out – we both not only have different stress and worry levels but we also have different triggers and we worry and stress about the complete opposite…
Eif is more practical than me – he worries and stresses about the really important stuff – the things you should be thinking about when you run a business – me I am a worrier and stress about the stuff that shouldn’t matter.
I tend to worry and stress about the things I can’t change, that I have no influence over, that no matter how much, or what I do, I will not, ever, be able to change the outcome. I am learning not to do this so much and it is remarkably freeing, but I am not quite right there yet.
Eif doesn’t worry about stuff like that – he has a very liberating, shoulder shrugging attitude to certain things, an almost “Stuff it” attitude and just gets on with it, while I smoulder, fester, stress, worry, second guess and analyse stuff and he often has to calm me down, reassure me and makes me take those little steps to do certain tasks when my confidence is not pointing towards the full indicator. He has been instrumental in me starting to write again and to do some other stuff that will be taking place over the next few months.
That “Stuff it” attitude doesn’t apply to when he is packing away and keeping his camera kit and photographic equipment – stress levels are high and I am on a major alert until the van is safely re-packed with all the various paraphernalia used in the latest adventure of the photographic academy events. But it is no different to how my OCD about stuff that doesn’t matter (like camera bags on my nice clean and well thought out display tables) or even noticed by others, frustrates me, and frustration for me, makes me snappy.
Flexibility and adaptability is another area that makes our differences apparent. Maybe it is my Kiwi-She’ll-be-right-attitude that means I can and am able to change plans at the drop of a hat if they need to change – If rain stops play I can, easily, without a second thought go from plan A to B to C to D, pulling apart the foundations of our arrangements and building them up in a completely different way – I also know that this, stresses the sh*t out of Eif, so I tend to work in a way to protect him, knowing that as long as he has his situation (lighting, kit, models, delegates – whatever the situation has called for) under control he can work to the high standard that he has set for himself. Me on the other hand – I worry and stress about what others are thinking, whether they are happy, or not, have I mis-sold something, will delegates get the images they imagined, should we cancel and postpone and will they get chips. Yes, surprisingly the biggest thing I worry about is food, whether delegates and models will get the sustenance and chips they need and want. It is probably the last thing on peoples minds but again, it is the little things that stress and worry me.
Over the years we’ve filled the gap too – adapting and learning about each other and bridging the gap little by little but also by expanding our team within Welshot. Helping to bridge the gap we’ve got Jason Edwards, working as project manager on future developments, he knows and understands the way each of us thinks and works and is right smack bang in the middle of the both of us. We have Sadie and Bethany who not only work perfectly with each other but also know the importance of my role within Welshot and how they differ to that of Eifion, Jason Edwards and others who as Welshot Team Leaders work directly with our delegates and what they need to do, and do well to make sure all go away happy and satisfied.
We have a brilliant Website developer too – Chris Doyle of Hub Projects Limited, he completes the team – without him Welshot wouldn’t and couldn’t exist in this day of the digital age. He too has had to understand how Eifion and I work, each as individuals or as part of a team and then he needs to pull this all together to reflect the personality and ethos of Welshot, which has, after all, come from our very own personalities that have had to be fused as one. No easy task for Chris but we reckon he along with Lynsey of L29 Creative have done a fantastic job.
So, between us, I reckon we’ve got it sorted, all situations covered and we make for a pretty good team – who, for the main part, work perfectly together. It shouldn’t work – but it does.
And as for those eyebrows – well, I wouldn’t swap them for the world. It’s how I know if he is vexed or if he is just thinking that life is always in a constant state of flux with me in it…